🎯 Table Host Toolkit (M³ Retreat)
A quick guide for Table Hosts to keep discussions focused, balanced and productive.
Your Role as Table Host
A quick guide for Table Hosts to keep discussions focused, balanced and productive.
Guide the Conversation
Your task is simple: keep the tone positive, ask don't tell, invite real examples not just opinions, and close with one shared takeaway for the larger group.
Stay Neutral
You're not here to fix. You're here to help others think together. Your role is to guide, not to defend or promote.
🎯 1. Do's & Don'ts
Do's
  1. Set a welcoming tone. One quick thought from each person before discussion.
  1. Read the Focus Question aloud and paraphrase simply.
  1. Use poll results as a neutral opener, not a verdict.
  1. Balance airtime. Invite quieter voices.
  1. Capture key phrases visibly.
  1. Summarise together. Let the group phrase its takeaway.
  1. Stay neutral; your role is to guide, not to defend or promote.
Don'ts
  1. Don't start with "Who wants to go first?". Instead, assign a start - e.g. alphabetically, birthday month, etc.
  1. Don't judge poll results as good or bad.
  1. Don't correct or defend agency work. Let somebody else do that.
  1. Don't take minutes. Highlight themes.
  1. Don't close without checking for shared takeaway.
💬 2. Guiding Prompts (If-This-Then-That)
Use these prompts to navigate common discussion challenges and keep conversations productive.
Discussion drifts off-topic
"Let's link that to what's happening in our Town. One real example?"
One voice dominates
"Thanks for sharing. Before you continue, let's hear a different view before circling back."
Complaints about resources
"Given our limits, what's one thing still within reach?"
Group agrees too quickly
“It sounds like we all agree. Let’s check if we’re agreeing for the same reasons - what’s driving your view?”
Silence or hesitation
"Let's start with one example of what worked a little better this year."
Narrow focus on individual projects
"How might this connect with what other Towns or MMOs are doing?"
Time runs low
"Let's capture one phrase or idea we'd like to share later."
Shares only successes or personal wins
"Thanks for sharing your success story. How does that experience relate to the focus question we’re exploring?"
✅ 3. Universal Probing Questions
These questions are designed to stimulate thoughtful discussion and uncover deeper insights across all focus areas, ensuring comprehensive exploration.
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A. To surface the initiative idea(s)
  1. What initiative or activity comes to mind based on your Town’s current stage on the poll?
  1. What is something small but concrete your Town could try in the next few months?
  1. Is there an existing activity you can strengthen or reshape rather than starting from scratch?
  1. Which group of families or residents would this initiative serve first?
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B. To help them understand their own why
  1. Why does this initiative make sense for your Town at this moment?
  1. What need, trend, or observation led you to pick this idea?
  1. How would this initiative support the direction shared in the FA presentation?
  1. What problem or gap does this initiative help to reduce?
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C. To clarify the MMO partnership format
  1. Which MMO could naturally support this initiative, and in what way?
  1. What part of the initiative can be led by your Town, and what part could be supported by the MMO?
  1. Are there MMOs you have worked with before who could extend or deepen this idea?
  1. If your Town has never worked with a particular MMO, what entry point could make the first step simple?
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D. To identify what they need from the FA
  1. What guidance or materials would help you run this initiative well?
  1. Is there a programme, resource, or contact point from the FA that would support this idea?
  1. What would make this initiative easier to carry out across Towns (e.g., a shared message, toolkit, or contact)?
  1. What kind of follow-up or check-in from the FA would help your Town sustain this?
🔄 4. Unstuck Questions by Focus Area
When discussions stall, use these targeted questions to reignite meaningful conversation in each focus area.
FA1 – Families, Parenthood, Early Childhood
  1. What simple activity or session could help families take their first step into FA1 programmes?
  1. Which existing parent or early-childhood activity could be repeated or strengthened in your Town?
  1. What format or location would make it easier for families or young parents to show up?
  1. What support would you need from MMOs in order to sustain or scale the impact of your Town’s FA1 initiatives?
  1. What partnership formats (e.g., shared outreach, joint sessions, resource pooling) would add the most value to you existing/ planned initiatives?
FA2 – Vulnerable Families
  1. What small, practical support activity could your Town run that would ease one stress point for vulnerable families?
  1. What is one safe, low-barrier way to reach families who have never approached M³@Towns before?
  1. Which partner or MMO could help deliver a simple trial run of this idea?
FA3 – Youth Empowerment
  1. What do youths already do well that can become leadership roles?
  1. What activity could youths plan or run that meets a real need in your Town?
  1. How might we give youths a clear role or task that feels like ownership rather than assistance?
  1. What is one small initiative that youths could test within the next 3 months?
FA4 – Employment & Employability
  1. Which recent skills or job initiative drew strong turnout? Why?
  1. How can Town efforts complement, not repeat, national ones?
  1. If we had to double participation without extra funds, what would we change first?
  1. What skills or job-readiness session could your Town run soon with support from agencies or MMO?
  1. Which group of residents would benefit most from a simple trial, and how can we reach them?
FA5 – Healthy Communities
  1. What helps residents take the first step into health programmes?
  1. What small improvement could make an existing health activity easier for residents to join consistently?
  1. Which MMO or Town partner could help run a quick health trial or outreach session?
  1. If every Town had one visible health success in six months, what would it look like?
  1. What existing nationwide employability or health programmes could be customised further to better suit each M³@Towns’ community?
✅ 5. Quick Reminder for Hosts
Your task is simple:
1. Keep the tone positive.
2. Ask, don't tell.
3. Invite real examples, not just opinions.
4. Close with one shared takeaway for the larger group.
5. Type key discussion points into the Initiatives Template using the iPad provided
⚠️You're not here to fix. You're here to help others think together.